- A lot of people think that if they have a relapse they have failed fundamentally in their recovery, but this is not true. Relapse doesn’t reduce your worth as a person, it doesn’t make you stupid and it is not complete failure. Recovering from self harm is like learning to walk, sometimes you fall over, but that doesn’t mean you’ll never start running. Relapse does not mean that you have to start over in your recovery or cannot recover, it’s ultimately just a hill on the road to getting better which you’ll climb and overcome.
- Try to identify what triggered the episode. If it helps keep a diary so you can spot patterns of behaviour and events that cause you to relapse. Knowing what’s setting you off can help you to avoid it again in future.
- Remind yourself of what you have achieved and how long you went without self harm, don’t focus on the relapse itself. Set yourself a target, try to beat your longest time without hurting yourself. Put distractions in place and have methods ready in case you get triggered again.
- After a relapse look after yourself. Try not to let the negative emotion overwhelm you. Get plenty of sleep, eat well and do something special for yourself.
- If you’ve been using certain methods to cope with your urges and they don’t seem to be working try some others. If you’ve relapsed using one coping method, attempt something different - you might find something that works better!
Keep fighting - remember you’re doing amazing